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RSVP FAQ
How do I RSVP?
Please RSVP using this form with the password given on your invitation. If you lost the paper with the password or are having other issues, reach out to the bride or groom directly.
When do I need to RSVP by?
Please kindly make our lives easier by responding whether or not you are able to attend as soon as possible.
What if I miss the RSVP deadline?
If the deadline passes and you haven’t let us know, someone will likely be reaching out with you to confirm either way. However, please reach out to the bride or groom directly if you want to attend but miss the cutoff and we will see what can be done.
What happens if I RSVP but then my plans change?
If plans change after you have submitted your RSVP, please reach out to the bride or groom directly–it is very much appreciated!
My invitation was addressed to just me, but can I bring a plus one?
Regretfully, our guest list is limited to the capacity of the final count supplied to our venue. Anyone not listed on the invitation will have to be considered on a case-by-case, first-come first-serve basis. Please reach out to the bride or groom.
Can I bring my child(ren)?
This celebration was planned as an adults-only event and is not suitable for children.
Location & Logistics
What time should I arrive?
Please plan on arriving at about 4:00 pm. Ceremony will begin approximately 4:45.
Are the ceremony and reception at the same location?
Yes! Everything is all in one spot.
What is the venue like? Is it outside?
Yes! Our wedding venue is outdoors. The Oaks is nestled in a canyon and surrounded by beautiful mature oak trees wrapped in gorgeous twinkling lights. There will be heat lamps stationed around the reception area for those of you who won’t keep warm by dancing your butts off. Bringing a sweater or jacket is also highly advisable. Also, while our ceremony and reception are outdoors, the bathrooms are indoors–no port-a-potties. Ew.
But what if it rains?
You think Alyson wouldn’t have a contingency plan? In case of rain, the venue has an amazing clear tent that encloses the reception area, so we can still take in the beauty of our surroundings while staying dry.
What is the parking situation?
There is plentiful free parking at The Oaks, though keep in mind it is not a paved lot. It is a short, unpaved walk from the parking lot to the cocktail & reception area. If you have mobility challenges, or even just don’t feel like walking in your fabulous dress shoes, the staff will be providing rides from the parking lot on their golf cart. Please note, overnight parking is not permitted. If you plan to party party, plan for ride-sharing.
I’m coming from far away, what airport should I fly into? Where should I stay?
Check out our Visitor’s Guide for more info on lodging and transportation.
Is it possible to take the train?
Kinda? Depending on where you are coming from, it can take you most of the way. If you are coming from north of Pala, the closest train station to our wedding venue is South Perris. It is a 30 minute Uber from there to the venue.
Reception Details
What should I wear?
Please do not arrive naked. Officially, our dress code is festive fall attire. For more info, click here.
Are kids allowed?
Lol no. While we love you and your kiddos, this is an adults only event.
What about animals?
For allergy reasons we want you to know that there will be a service dog on site with one of our bridal party members. And before you ask, yes you can pet her if dad says it’s okay.
Are there assigned seats?
For the ceremony, no! Sit anywhere you like that doesn’t have a “reserved” sign on it. For the reception, there will be assigned tables but you can sit anywhere at your table that you like.
How late will the reception go?
The music will turn off at 9:30 pm to signal everyone to start gathering themselves, grabbing their last cup of coffee or a dessert to go, and saying goodbyes. We’ll have a send-off, and then tear-down will begin at 10. Due to venue rules and city ordinances, anyone not assisting with tear-down will have to leave by 10:00.
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What will there be to do?
Receive hugs and squeezes because we love you, eat some delicious food, marvel at how creative we were while putting together our signature cocktail menu, listen to some (hopefully) entertaining toasts/speeches, dance your butt off, take a break to strike a pose in the photo booth, gather for the Cat Toss, then dance some more.
Wait, what’s a Cat Toss?
Bouquet tosses are so old fashioned! Join us in celebrating our love for each other and cats by gathering for our Cat Toss. Presented by a special guest, the bride will be throwing a plush cat. Whoever catches it can keep it (because that’s how the Cat Distribution System works), and the bride and groom will make a donation to Cats of San Bernardino in their name to honor their achievement in plush cat catching.
Dining & Drinking
What is the food going to be?
Our menu hasn’t been set yet, but there will be appetizers during cocktail hour, salad, dinner, and dessert served.
Will there be a bar?
Non-alcoholic drinks like water, soda, coffee, and hot cocoa will be served along with beer, wine, and our signature cocktail menu. No hard liquor will be served other than in the signature cocktails (no shots, straight up, etc.). Please know your personal limits and plan ahead. If you plan to Uber, we highly recommend booking your Uber in advance to ensure you won’t be waiting around for a long period of time.
I have ________ dietary restriction or allergy. Will I be able to eat?
Please reach out to the bride or groom! If you have a special dietary need, let us know so we can communicate with our caterers. If you are bringing your own food for safety reasons, please let the bride or groom know ahead of time so we can make arrangements for you to have access to the kitchen.
For those with food aversions, note that the meal will be served buffet-style, so you do not have to have anything on your plate that you don’t want there.
Photos & Media
What photography/videography is taking place? Can I take photos?
You are welcome to take pics on your own, but we ask that you please be mindful of our awesome vendors and be courteous by staying out of their paths.
There will also be a Photo Booth during the reception, and we hope all of you get very silly.
Do you have a wedding hashtag?
Nope. We’re bad millennials. If you’re going to post photos from the wedding online, chances are you know how to tag us in your post–that’s all we really ask.
Where can I go to see pictures after the wedding?
If you take pics at our Photo Booth, you’ll have them immediately. Photos from the pros will be available the following business day and we will add a link to our website.
I want to share the photos/video I took at your wedding!
Not a question, but love the enthusiasm. You can Airdrop them to the bride or groom, or drop them into this shared Google Drive folder. Bonus points to anyone who uses the Social House file naming convention. Just kidding. Or am I?